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Love is not a permanent state of enthusiasm


An interview with Esther Perel

Mating in Captivity by Esther PEREL book coverFrom the New Yorker Festival, the couples therapist and podcast host discusses infidelity, apologies, and the problem with wedding vows these days.

THE PSYCHOTHERAPIST ESTHER Perel knows how to work a room. Since the publication of her first book, “Mating in Captivity” in 2006, she has travelled the world, speaking to audiences about love, sex, intimacy, and infidelity: the nuts and bolts of romantic life. (Those who do not have an opportunity to see her live can watch her on the TED stage, where her videos, subtitled in more than thirty languages, have been viewed tens of millions of times.)

Perel, who grew up in Antwerp as the daughter of Holocaust survivors, got her start as a family therapist, focusing on issues of trauma and cultural conflict. Couples have since become her clinical and theoretical specialty.

In a style marked by humor, frankness, and empathy, Perel’s talks and books take a counterintuitive approach to answering provocative questions: How did the romantic couple become the primary unit of organization in society? Can romantic desire truly be sustained? Is infidelity ever a good thing?

By Alexandra Schwartz, The New Yorker

MAIN IMAGE: Pixabay, Ben Kerckx.

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